Masturbation – It’s What’s For Dinner

Or something. This short article about making female masturbation “bad behavior” on par with cutting and low self-esteem, diddles around a bit before a great eye-opening climax:

Sexuality is more like a muscle, and if you don’t use it, you lose it. One reason many women have trouble orgasming in a sexual relationship is they don’t masturbate enough, and they have trouble knowing what works and what doesn’t. Indeed, the research links losing your virginity later in life to experiencing more sexual dysfunction. And anecdotally, most of us can think of times when we’ve been so busy that we don’t have time to think about sex (i.e., experiencing those lustful thoughts so condemned by Christians fundies), and so when we get home and are expected to perform, we have trouble getting aroused. Following the fundamentalist list of sex rules seems like the quickest way possible to drain a marriage of any passion, which strikes me as a bad idea if you want to hold those marriages together.”

  • Good points in that article. Works for most women I know – the more sex they get, the more they want. And vice versa. But the question about the dysfunction relating to a later loss of virginity… did they have dysfunction because they lost their virginity late, or did they wait to lose their virginity due to some dysfunction? (And I’d argue that viewing masturbation and sex as sinful is a dysfunction in itself.)

  • Good points in that article. Works for most women I know – the more sex they get, the more they want. And vice versa. But the question about the dysfunction relating to a later loss of virginity… did they have dysfunction because they lost their virginity late, or did they wait to lose their virginity due to some dysfunction? (And I’d argue that viewing masturbation and sex as sinful is a dysfunction in itself.)

  • Not sure you have to argue that last point.

  • Not sure you have to argue that last point.